Read Aaron Lazare’s requirements for an effective apology. These attempted apologies and expressions of consolation failed to elicit. Aaron Lazare, M.D., a noted scholar on the psychology of shame and humiliation, offers a thoroughly engaging and lucid examination of an important and. On Apology, by Aaron Lazare. New York, Oxford University. Press, , pp., $ What a pleasure to read a book by a prominent psychiatrist.

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Indeed, especially after a party has been humiliated, as in the case of Abu Ghraib, apology is a vital, often necessary, step toward assuaging feelings of humiliation, promoting forgiveness, and restoring balance to a relationship. Kirk Ashworth rated it really liked it Aug 06, For one thing, why didn’t the daughter use the nut-allergy defense right away? Iraqis, understandably, were enraged. Return to Book Page.

I still use the precepts I learned from this book. Tl;dr – In short, although this book gets off to a rocky start, it ended up being very informative and educational. Commonly, the relationship becomes stronger with a bond forged out of the honesty and courage of the offending party. Academic Skip to main content.

One of the best written non-fiction books I’ve ever read. Oct 10, Maureen Flatley rated it it was amazing. Ok now I’m starting to sound a lawyer. Lazare covers so many different aspects of apologies.

Review “At a time in our history when there seems to be so much to apologize for–Lazare’s book is a wise reminder of how much depends on the sincerity and openheartedness with which we acknowledge that a wrong has been done and begin to work together toward forgiveness. In my opinion, he was implying that the United States was a victim in the incident. Lazare succeeds in showing that a true apology is among the most graceful and profound of all human exchanges. Richard Reeves to President Gerald Ford.


My library Help Advanced Book Search. By providing specific examples of how nations and individuals have apologized for their offenses in the past, he offers the optimistic idea that offending parties have made an ongoing commitment to change their behavior In this book, Aaron Lazare, M.

Jeannette rated it it was amazing Mar 15, Others have reviewed some of the specific details of the book so rather than repeat the same information, let me focus on what I found most useful. For instance, forgiving your dead, abusive parents. In a perfect world. Dec 20, J rated it really liked it.

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A sixth healing factor is reparation, when the apolohy receives some form of compensation for his or her pain. Ships from and sold by Amazon. Dec 13, Sergei Moska rated it really liked it. Choose your country or region Close.

These photos, and many other images that followed, showed soldiers taking pleasure in torturing and mocking naked Iraqi prisoners. Mar 14, Canadian Reader rated it liked it Shelves: For example, a woman who has been abused by an unrepentant husband may forgive him but choose to live apart.

And what about the person who constantly apologizes?

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A valid acknowledgment must make clear who the offender is or has the standing to speak on behalf of the offender and who is the offended. Not sure how since apparently sees apologies as a chance to really humiliate people and rub their faces in feces.

Such an admission is not a threat so long as they feel good about themselves and feel that THEY are not a mistake. Amazon Renewed Refurbished products with a warranty. This is a book you will want everyone you know to read, and one that you will remember the contents of long after you close the covers. Learn more about Amazon Prime. Lazare’s contribution touches on basic human emotion and interaction and will be of interest to a wide general audience as well as to those in the healing professions.


We are forever touching other peoples lives in ways that may not always be the most congenial and because of misunderstanding, anger.

As secretary of defense, I am accountable for them and I take full responsibility. For a national offense of this magnitude, only the president has the standing to offer an apology.

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People who never forgive no matter what. Oxford University Press November 3, Language: Written by a Harvard Medical School professor, this book is a suprisingly light book celebrating the difficult human notion of the apology. With no apology, one can hope for a future apology, but with a failed apology, one often concludes that the matter is hopeless.

For those who have injured or offended others again, that pretty much includes all of uswe can’t begin our own healing process without completing the full requirements of a sincere apology. Don’t you know about my allergies? President Bush, and others in his administration, tried to explain prisoner abuse at Abu Ghraib as the work of a few bad apples.

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